I went to Whiskey Cake today in Plano, to enjoy a delicious brunch. I was by myself, as usual, which is no big deal. The bartender serving me was quite attractive. We exchanged small conversation and he was polite. I enjoyed looking at him. There was minor flirtation going on, if even that. A random gentleman sat down beside me and noticed me observing the bartender. The gentleman claimed he was a "life coach" and paralleled himself to Will Smith in the movie "Hitch." He proceeded to give me unwarranted advice on how to attract this bartender. I took what he had with a grain of salt, simply because he was a patron and I didn't know him from Adam. This lady, sitting on the other side of me, observed all of this and she also proceeded to give me unwarranted advice, not only with the bartender, but with this random "life coach."
The lady providing advice was a 52-year-old single woman. What she had to say was true and it was helpful. Little did she know, I've been receiving this same advice for years. She said she chose to be single, which to me indicated a red flag of sorts. Yes, she was nice and offered reasonable advice, but if you are in your 50s and you "choose to be single" why on earth are you providing me advice? I do not want to end up like you, let alone receive your advice on what to do and what not to do.
All I wanted to do was enjoy a delicious brunch, some tasty beverages, and admire the beautiful bartender eye candy in peace. I get so sick of "do this, don't do this, this is what you're doing wrong, this is what you should be doing instead" conversations. It's kind of like rules for Gremlins: "Don't water it, don't feed it after midnight, don't expose to sunlight." I understand third party observers try to help, but keep the advice to yourself, until being asked for your input. I know I'm young, I know I have a lot to offer, this is nothing new. Basically, if you see a person (a woman) by herself at a bar, at a coffee shop, anywhere in public, there is nothing wrong with making friendly conversation. Please, by all means, refrain from dating advice. It's honestly like a discussion of religion and politics: you just don't broach that subject. Unless I've known you for a little while, keep that opinion and advice to yourself.
